BDSM Scene Negotiation Long FormPeopleWho will take part? Who will watch? Note: The session will involve only those people named above. Will any permanent record be made of the session (photographs, audio or video tapes)? RolesWho will be dominant? Who will be submissive? Type of scene:
Will the submissive promptly obey? May the submissive verbally resist? May the submissive physically resist? May the dominant "overpower" or "force" the submissive? Does resistance equal a "strong yellow"? May the submissive try to "turn the tables"? Does the submissive agree to wear a collar? The submissive agrees to address the dominant by the following title(s): PlaceLocation: Who will insure privacy? TimeBegin at: Length: Beginning signal: Ending signal: Who will keep track of time? OopsDoes everyone involved understand that there is some risk of accident, miscommunication, misperception and/or unintentional injury? Does everyone involved agree to discuss any mishaps in a constructive and non-blaming manner? STD'sDoes any participant believe they might have a sexually transmitted disease? Does any participant believe they might have herpes? For females, when was your last PAP smear? Have participants been tested for HIV? Has any participant tested positive? LimitsSubmissive's physical/emotional/SM limitsAny problem with the submissive's:
Does the submissive suffer from carpal tunnel syndrome or related problems? Does the submissive have a history of...
Submissive's other medical conditions: Any surgical implants (breast, face, etc)? Is the submissive taking aspirin? Is the submissive taking ibuprofen, Aleve, or other non-steroidal, inflamatory drugs? Is the submissive taking antihistamines? Other medications the submissive is taking: Allergic to:
In case of emergency notify: Dominant's physical/emotional/SM limitsAny problem with the dominant's:
Medications dominant is taking: In case of emergency notify: Is the dominant currently certified in First aid/CPR? Safety gear on hand:
If yes, what will insure the submissive's safety if the dominant becomes unconscious?
SexWhich of the following sexual acts are acceptable:
Is any participant menstruating? Will sex toys such as vibrators, dildos, butt plugs, etc be used? Describe: Which of the above activities will involve birth control pills, diaphrams, spermicidal suppositories, lubricants containing nonoxynol-9, or contraceptive foam/suppositories/gel? Which of the above activities will involve condoms, gloves, dental dams and/or other barriers? IntoxicantsThe dominant can use (only) the following intoxicants during the session: Acceptable quantity: The submissive can use (only) the following intoxicants during the session: Acceptable quantity: BondageThe submissive agrees to allow (only) the following types of bondage:
PainSubmissive's general attitude about receiving pain:
Will the "nod" technique be used? Will the "one to ten" technique be used? The following types of pain are acceptable:
Additional remarks: MarksIs it acceptable to the submissive if the play leaves marks? Visible while wearing street clothes? Visible while wearing a bathing suit? Other: Is it acceptable to the submissive if the play draws small amounts of blood? How easy or difficult has it been to mark the submissive in the past? Erotic HumiliationThe submissive agrees to accept being referred to by the following terms: The submissive agrees to the following forms of erotic humiliation:
SafewordsSafeword #1 and its meaning: Safeword #2 and its meaning: Safeword #3 and its meaning: Non-verbal safewords and their meaning: Will "two squeezes" be used? Will the "extended hand" technique be used? Opportunities or special skills Anything in particular either party would like to try or explore? Follow-up(Please include a note about who will initiate contact for each.) After the session: The next day: A week later: In case of a crisis: Anything else?What will become of this form after the session? Post session notesDominantOverall feeling (1 to 10, 10 best)Best part (1 to 10) Worst part (1 to 10) Other comments: SubmissiveOverall feeling (1 to 10, 10 best)Best part (1 to 10) Worst part (1 to 10) Other comments: As published in "SM-101" 2nd ed. - Reproduced with permission. Copyright 1996 by Jay Wiseman (Greenery Press) POB 1261, Berkeley, CA 94701 | |
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