- A -
Experience
Who
Willingness
Abrasion (sandpaper, etc.)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Age play
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Anal Linctus (Anal intercourse)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Anal Lingus (Anal rimming)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Anal plug (public, under clothes)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Anal plugs (large)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Anal plugs (small)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Anal beads
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Anal fingering
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Anal fisting
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Anal fucking
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Anal licking
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Anal rimming
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Anal sex
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Anal speculums
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Animal roles
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Arabian Nipple Techniques (twists, pulls, or tugs)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Arm and Leg sleeves (arm binders)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Armpit sex
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Aromas
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Asphyxiation (light)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Asphyxiation (heavy)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Ass-cheek sex
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Auctioned for charity
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Auctioned for a scene at an event
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Autoerotic Asphyxiation (self-inflicted)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
- B -
Experience
Who
Willingness
Ball Stretching
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Bastinado (foot sole torture)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Bathing (by your Dom/me)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Bathing (your Dom/me)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Bathroom use control
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Beating (hard)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Beating (soft)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Behavior Restrictive Rules
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Begging
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Being made to service others (sexually)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Being made to service others (non-sexually)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Being serviced (sexually)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Ben Wa Balls
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Belt/strap
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Bestiality (name your pet)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Bisexual activities (Being involved in)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Bisexual activities (Observing - Specify M/M F/F or Multiples)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Bisexual activity (Observing member of opposite sex with your Dom/me)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Biting (give)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Biting (get)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Blindfolds
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Body bags
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Body hair removed by waxing (legs, pubic, etc.)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Body hair removed by pulling (legs, pubic, etc.)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Body Worship
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Bondage (heavy)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Bondage (light)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Bondage (hog-tie)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Bondage (intricate rope)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Bondage (mental)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Bondage (outdoors)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Bondage (overnight)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Bondage (all day)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Bondage (full-body)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Bondage (multi-day)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Bondage (public, under clothing)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Bondage (public, visible)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Boot worship
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Branding
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Breast torture
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Breast whipping
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Breast/chest bondage
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Breath control A.E.A.
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Breeding sub (impregnation being used to make children)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Brown showers (scat)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
- C -
Experience
Who
Willingness
Cages (locked inside of)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Candle wax
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Caning
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Carotid Pressure (not choking)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Castration Fantasy
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Cattle prod (electrical toy)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Catheterization
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Cock & Ball Biting
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Cock & Ball Clamps
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Cock & Ball Clips
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Cock & Ball Licking
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Cock & Ball Sucking
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Cock & Ball Torture (CBT)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Cock & Ball Weights
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Cells/closets/boxes (locked inside of)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Chains
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Chamber-pot use
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Chastity belts
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Chastity devices
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Chauffeuring
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Choking
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Chores ( Domestic Service)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Cling film
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Clothespins
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Clothing selection (Dom chooses)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Cock rings/straps
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Cock worship
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Cock bondage
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Coffin play
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Collar and leash
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Collar and lead
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Collars (worn in private)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Collars (worn in public)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Competitions (with other Subs)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Confinement
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Contract Slave (state length of time)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Corsets (trained waist reduction)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Corsets (wearing over clothes)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Corsets (wearing under clothes)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Crawling
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Criminal conviction or indictment
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Crops
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Cross Dressing ( covert - underwear)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Cross Dressing ( Overt-public gender display)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Crucifixtion
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Cuffs (leather)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Cuffs (metal)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Cunnilingus (pussy licking, giving)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Cunnilingus (pussy licking, receiving)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Cupping/suction
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Cutting
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
- D -
Experience
Who
Willingness
Daily Diary (re BDSM activities and desires)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Diapers (soiling)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Diapers (wearing)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Diapers (wetting)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Dilation (anal)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Dilation (cervical)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Dilation (penile)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Dilation (vaginal)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Dildos (anal)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Dildos (oral)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Dildos (vaginal)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Discipline
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Domination
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Dominatrix Training
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Douching / Enema
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Double penetration
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Dressage whips
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Duct tape
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
- E -
Experience
Who
Willingness
Edge play (non blood sport)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Electricity
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Electric Toys
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Electrical Tape
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Electrotorture
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Enemas (golden)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Enemas (wine)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Enemas (for pleasure)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Enemas (for cleansing)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Enemas (for retention/punishment)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Enforced chastity
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Erotic Art
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Erotic Dance (private)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Erotic Dance (public)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Erotic Posing
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Erotic Power Exchange EPE (denotes limits)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Escort Work
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Examinations (physical)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Exercise (forced/required)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Exhibitionism (friends)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Exhibitionism (strangers)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Exposure to a STD
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Eye contact restrictions
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
- F -
Experience
Who
Willingness
Face slapping
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Face sitting
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Fantasy abandonment
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Fantasy gang rape
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Fantasy rape (not actual rape)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Fear (being scared)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Feathers
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Feet Fucking
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Feet Worship
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Fellatio (blow job, giving)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Fellatio (blow job, receiving)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Fetish Clothing
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Fetish Shoes
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Figging (anal ginger insertion)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Finger sex (anal, as giver)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Finger sex (anal, as receiver)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Finger sex (oral, as giver)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Finger sex (oral, as receiver)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Finger sex (vaginal, as giver)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Finger sex (vaginal, as receiver)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Fire play
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Fisting (anal, as giver)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Fisting (anal, as receiver)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Fisting (vaginal, as giver)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Fisting (vaginal, as receiver)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Fleching (licking semen from an orifice)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Flogging
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Following orders
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Foot worship
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Food selction/directed eating
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Food Play
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Forced Bed wetting
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Forced dressing
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Forced eating
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Forced exercise
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Forced homosexuality
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Forced masturbation
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Forced nudity (around others)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Forced nudity (private)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Forced servitude
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Forced smoking
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Fur
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
- G -
Experience
Who
Willingness
Gags (cloth)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Gags (hollow)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Gags (inflatable)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Gags (phallic)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Gags (rubber ball)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Gags (tape)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Gas masks
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Gates of Hell (male)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Genital sex (a la vache/ Doggie style )
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Genital sex (Kaman Sutra)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Genital sex (supine/ missionary)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
GG Rubbing (genito-genital)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Given away to another Dom/me (perm)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Given away to another Dom/me (temp)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Golden showers
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Gorean (kajira)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Gun play
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
- H -
Experience
Who
Willingness
Hair pulling
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Hairbrush spankings
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Hand cuffs / shackles
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Hand jobs (giving)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Hand jobs (receiving)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Harems (serving w/other subs)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Harnessing (leather)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Harnessing (rope)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Having clothing chosen for you
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Having food chosen for you
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Head (giving fellatio/cunnilingus)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Head (receiving fellatio/cunnilingus)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Headphones/earplugs
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
High heel wearing
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
High heel worship
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Homage with tongue (non-sexual)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Hood (full-head)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Hood (partial)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Hot oils (on genitals)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Hot creams
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Hot candle wax
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Hot waxing
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Housework (doing)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Human puppy dog
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Human toilet
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Humiliation (private)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Humiliation (public)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Hypnotism (deep trance)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Hypnotism (light trance)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
- I -
Experience
Who
Willingness
Ice cubes
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Immobilization
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Incest (parent or sibling)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Including others
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Inducing lactation (breast pumping, herbs, etc.)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Infantilism
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Initiation rites
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Injections
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Intercourse (anal)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Intercourse (vaginal)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Interrogations
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Irrumatio (face fucking)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
- K -
Experience
Who
Willingness
Kidnapping
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Kneeling
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Knife Play (not blood sports)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Kundalini practices (scene yoga)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
- L -
Experience
Who
Willingness
Lace
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Latex
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Labial clips
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Leather clothes
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Leather restraints
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Lectures for misbehavior
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Leg restraint
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Licking (non-sexual)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Lingerie wearing
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Lingham worship (AKA cock worship)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
- M -
Experience
Who
Willingness
Maid
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Manacles and Irons
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Manicures (giving)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Manicures (getting)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Marriage
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Mask wearing
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Massage (giving)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Massage (receiving)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Masturbation
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Medical scenes
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Modeling for erotic photos (private)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Modeling for erotic photos (public)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Mouth bits
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Mouth gag
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Mummification
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
- N -
Experience
Who
Willingness
Name change (legal, permanent)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Name change for Scene
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Nipple Biting
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Nipple clamps
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Nipple clips
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Nipple licking
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Nipple play/torture
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Nipple rings (piercing)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Nipple sucking
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Nipple weights
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Nudism (club)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Nudity (in public)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Nudity (in private)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Nylons
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
- O -
Experience
Who
Willingness
Oral Fixation
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Oral sex
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Oral/anal play (rimming giving)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Oral/anal play (rimming receiving)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Orgasm control
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Orgasm denial
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Outdoor scenes
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Outdoor sex
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Over-the-knee spanking
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
- P -
Experience
Who
Willingness
Paddling
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Padlocks
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Pain (mild)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Pain (severe)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Pain (moderate)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Panties
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Pearl shower/cum bath (breasts / belly)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Pearl shower/cum bath (facial)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Pedicures and foot massage (giving)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Pedicures and foot massage (receiving)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Peeing
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Persona training (in scene)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Personality modification (RL)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Phone sex (commercial provider)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Phone sex (serving Dom/me)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Phone sex (serving Dom/mes friends)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Photo shoot
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Physical exams
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Physical humiliation
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Piercing (permanent)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Pinching
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Plastic surgery
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Plastic wrapping
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Pony play
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Pony slave
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Posing
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Power Exchange
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Pregnancy (aborted)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Pregnancy (full term)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Prison scenes
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Prostitution (actual, for profit)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Prostitution (pretend)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Prostitution (public pretense)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Public exposure
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Public scening as sub (vanilla location)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Public scening as Dom (vanilla location)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Public scening as sub (private club)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Public scening as Dom (private club)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Punching
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Punishment scenes
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Puppy play
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Puppy slave
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Pussy worship (cf Yoni worship, below)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Pussy/cock whipping
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
- R -
Experience
Who
Willingness
Religious scenes
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Restraints (Leather)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Restraints (Rope)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Restraints (Steel/iron)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Restrictive rules on behavior
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Riding crops
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Riding the horse (crotch torture)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Rimming
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Rituals
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Role Play (Boss / Secretary)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Role Play (Doctor / Patient)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Role Play (Master / Slave)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Role Play (Parent / Child)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Role Play (Brother / Sister)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Role Play (Father / Mother)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Role Play (Nurse / Patient)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Role Play (Rapist / Victim)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Role Play (Cop / Prisoner)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Role Play (Hooker / John)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Role Play (Owner / Pet)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Role Play (Teacher / Student)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Role Play (Cyber)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Role Play (Phone)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Role Play (RT in scene)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Ropes
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Rope body harness
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Rubber/latex clothes
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
- S -
Experience
Who
Willingness
Sadism
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Safe Word
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Scarification
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Scent
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Scratching (getting)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Scratching (giving)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Sensory deprivation
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Servitude
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Serving as a maid
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Serving as art
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Serving as ashtray
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Serving as furniture
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Serving as toilet (feces)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Serving as toilet (Urine)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Serving as waitress/waiter
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Serving orally (Dom/me Only )
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Serving other Dommes/Doms (supervised)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Serving other Dommes/Doms (unsupervised)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Sex in public
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Sex with animals
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Sexual deprivation (long term)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Sexual deprivation (short term)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Sleep deprivation
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Shaving ( pubic hair)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Shaving (body hair)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Shaving (head hair)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Shibari (Japanese rope bondage)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Shoe worship
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Silk scarves
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Skinny-dipping
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Slapping the face
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Slave Training
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Sleep deprivation
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Sleep sacks
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Sling/swing
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Slutty clothing (private)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Slutty clothing (public)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Snowflaking (passing Doms semen to another subs mouth)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Spandex clothes
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Spanking (bench)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Spanking (OTK)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Speculums (Anal)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Speculums (vaginal)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Speech restrictions (when, what)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Spitting
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Spitting semen
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Spreader bars
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Standing in corner
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Stocks
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Straight jackets
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Strap-on-dildos (wearing)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Strapping (full body beating)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Stripping
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Struggling
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Submissive training
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Subspace experience (early levels)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Subspace experience (high levels)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Subspace experience (mid levels)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Supplying new partners for Dom
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Suspension (horizontal)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Suspension (inverted)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Suspension (upright)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Swallowing feces
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Swallowing semen
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Swallowing urine
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Swapping (with one other couple)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Swinging (multiple couples)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Switching Roles
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Sybian
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
- T -
Experience
Who
Willingness
Talking dirty
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Tampon Training (in ass)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Tantric sex
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Tattooing
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Teasing
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Tens Unit (electricity)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Texture stimulation
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Thumb cuffs (metal)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Tickling
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Tit fucking
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Toe licking
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Tongue fetish
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Toys
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Total Power Exchange ( denotes no limits)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Training to be A Pro-Dom/me
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Triple penetration
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
- U -
Experience
Who
Willingness
Uniforms
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Urethral sounds (metal rods)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Urine
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Use of a Safe Word
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
- V -
Experience
Who
Willingness
Vaginal Biting
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Vaginal Clamps
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Vaginal Fisting
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Vaginal Fucking
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Vaginal Licking
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Vaginal Shaving
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Vaginal Speculums
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Vaginal Sucking
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Vaginal Torture
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Vaginal Toys
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Vaginal Weights
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Vaginal Whipping
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Vaginal Worship
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Vaginal Fingering
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Vaginal Clips
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Vacuum (cervix play)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Vacuum (clitoral play)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Vacuum (nipple play)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Verbal humiliation
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Vibrator on genitals
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Vibrator insertion (anal)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Vibrator insertion (vaginal)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Video (recordings of you)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Video (watching others)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Violet Wand (electricity)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Voyeurism (watching others)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
- W -
Experience
Who
Willingness
Water Torture
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Water Sports
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Waxing (hair removal)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Wearing symbolic jewelry
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Weight gain (forced)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Weight loss (forced)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Whipping (bullwhip)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Whipping (cat)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Whipping (cock)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Whipping (knotted whip)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Whipping (pussy)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Whipping (single tail)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Whipping (switch)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Whipping (tawse)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Wooden paddles
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Wrist restraint
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Wrestling
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
- Y -
Experience
Who
Willingness
Yoni worship (AKA pussy worship)
Yes
No
Steady Partner
Casual and Steady
Self
What is this?
Not Applicable
0 Hard Limit
1 Soft Limit
2 Don't want
3 Willing
4 Occasional
5 Regularly
6 Often
Email address: (optional)